Tuesday, March 20, 2007

10 Steps to a Great Relationship

1. Allow!
Too many people attempt to change their partner. Change yourself and allow your partner to be who they are and become what they may. Even though you are sharing your lives and sharing a pathway, each must be free to travel at their own pace and take their own detours.

2. Accept!
Accept that men and women are different. Accept that individuals are different. Accept the love that is given. Accept the gifts that are offered. Accept that your partner is your mirror. The faults you see are likely also your own. The beauty you see is likely also your own.

3. Uplift!
Praise rather than criticize. Exalt rather than denigrate. Encourage rather than dishearten. Be compassionate rather than judgmental. Empower rather than control.

4. Be romantic!
Courtship and seduction should never stop. Compliment. Give a flower. Hold hands. Share ideals. Dine by candlelight. Walk in the moonlight. Share a sunset. Whisper sweet nothings. Say, "I love you", every day.

5. Touch!
Pat, pet, caress, cuddle, embrace, hug, massage your partner. A gentle touch in passing can mean more than words. A hug can fix a wounded spirit. A cuddle can fix all that's wrong with the world. And yes, make love too. Sex can be the best form of communication. Good sex can merge your souls. Regular sex helps you live longer and be healthier.

6. Communicate!
You may have been living together for 50 years but she/he cannot read your mind. If you are growing at all, you will need to share that with your partner or risk growing apart. Speak your hopes and dreams. Speak your fears and doubts. Speak your expectations. Speak your love.

7. Respect!
Self-respect is vital to avoid abusive relationships and co-dependent relationships. Respect and honor your partner, as you would like to be respected and honored. You are each sacred and your relationship is sacred.

8. Laugh!
If you can share a least one laugh every day, you will have fewer tears. A sense of humor is mandatory to survive life without bitterness; it is more than mandatory to survive a relationship. Almost everything you think is so important today will be a joke in a few years. Laugh about your foibles today. Why wait?

9. Learn!
The more you learn about each other, the more you can love, respect and honor who the other person is. The more you learn about life together, the more you will share. The more you learn, the more you grow. Grow together by learning together.

10. Love!
In order to be capable of loving another fully, you must first fall in love with you. Love yourself unconditionally and you become capable of loving another unconditionally. Unconditional love is freedom and fulfillment. Love is the highest thing you can aspire to. If anything in life is worth striving for, it is the ability to love more and more each and every day.

Bonus! Forgive!
You will hurt each other. Forgiveness is more than essential, it is mandatory. Every little grudge held drives a wedge between you. Forgive each other. Every little guilt builds a wall between you. Forgive yourself.
Forgiveness is a divine attribute. Approach the divine; practice forgiveness.

1 comment:

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